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Worshipping with Quakers

For Quakers, worship (sometimes called Meeting for Worship) is at the heart of what it means to be a Quaker. It is a source of strength and inspiration and it helps shape how we live our lives. It is an experience that is probably different from what is normally associated with the word ‘worship’. A meeting for worship usually lasts for an hour, or it may be half an hour. In Quaker worship there are no ministers or creeds. We first gather together in silence to quiet our minds – we don't have set hymns, prayers or sermons. In the stillness we open our hearts and lives to new insights and guidance. Sometimes we are moved to share what we discover with those present. We call this 'ministry'. We listen to what everyone has to say to find its meaning for us. Anyone can give ministry, including visitors.

What happens in the stillness? In the quiet we look for a sense of connection. This might be a connection with those around us, with our deepest selves, or perhaps with God. Our worship may take us beyond our own thoughts and ideas, beyond the everyday, to help us live with a deeper sense of love and purpose. Sometimes during worship, someone might speak or, when online, write something in the 'chat' box; this is a way of giving words to something that is really beyond words. This is called ministry and it comes from a sense of being prompted to share something of real importance; it might be about something that concerns them deeply or something from their own personal experience; it might be something that worries them or something they feel thankful for. Anyone can offer ministry, even if it is their first time in Quaker worship. Sometimes no one speaks and the whole meeting for worship can be silent. Who runs the meeting for worship? Anyone can contribute to a Quaker meeting for worship – there is no leader. In online worship, there will be a 'facilitator' and we do have people with a responsibility to support and nurture our worship. We call these people 'elders'.

What books do you use? Whilst there are no service books or set forms of words, during worship, people may read from the Bible or a book called Quaker faith & practice may be used. Quaker faith & practice is a collection of writing from our 375-year history. People may read from it quietly, or sometimes aloud if they feel prompted to. We also use a small booklet called Advices & queries, which is a collection of prompts, insights and questions. You can find Advices and Queries here: https://qfp.quaker.org.uk/chapter/1/

Who can come to meeting? Meetings for worship are open to everyone. Children are a valued part of the Quaker community and there are some online sessions specifically for them – You can find out more about children's meetings online here https://www.quaker.org.uk/children-and-young-people/work-quakersetting/online-meetings-for-children-and-young-people

A little more. Below are links to some leaflets and short videos that might be helpful in understanding more about Quaker worship and how it shapes the way Quakers live: Quaker Worship: a short leaflet that tells of the experience of worship four different Quakers https://quaker-prod.s3.eu-west- .amazonaws.com/store/4151712d8539c18b17cd9518073ebc98e3da55bc5af62b0 484279e46f7c8 On the Quakers in Britain website, you can find out more about worship here: https://www.quaker.org.uk/about-quakers/our-faith/how-quakers-worship You can find out more about what Quakers believe here: https://www.quaker.org.uk/about-quakers/our-faith Here are four short animated films about four different Quakers who share their experience of living as a Quaker: https://www.quaker.org.uk/aboutquakers/quaker-journeys

Attending Bridport Meeting House for the first time?

If you walk down the east side of South Street and stop opposite St Mary’s Church you will be able to see the Quaker Meeting House sign. It’s the building through the covered passageway adjoining the almshouses and if you look straight on you will glimpse the Peace Garden which is open to everyone for quiet reflection or conversation, and is popular for its sunny benches for coffee or lunch.

The Meeting House is where we gather for Meeting for Worship at 10:30 on Sundays for an hour and Wednesdays at 10:30am for half an hour. Meetings have been taking place in this space, which was first a humble barn, since the late 17th century.

Everyone is welcome to come, whatever their faith or none, and some people who come will also attend other churches. We hope that we provide a home for those whose spiritual journey has taken different routes to find what our founder George Fox called “that of God in everyone”. Bridport Quakers are members of Churches Together in the town and are pleased to offer opportunities for people to come together from different faiths. such as in the Week of Prayer for World Peace. Young visitors are always welcome and we have plenty of activities for them in an adjoining room.

The Meeting begins when the first person enters the room, so we come in quietly. We have no ministers or creeds so we sit in a circle around a low table on which we have a few flowers from the garden. You can choose where you would like to sit. It takes a few minutes for everyone to settle down and once we feel that we are gathered there will be a reading. After that anyone who feels drawn to stand and speak may do so. It can be quite an experience to do this; on your first occasion you may feel that “quaking” is a good description for it! After each ministry there will be silence so that we can consider what has just been shared. Sometimes there will be a number of ministries, sometimes just a few. Ministries are very rarely prepared in advance but a common theme may develop. It does not feel like an empty silence, but as the mind calms we hope to provide an unpressured opportunity for spiritual exploration with the support of others. When the Meeting is due to end two Quakers will shake hands and then we all shake hands with those near us. After this there is an opportunity for those to express the thoughts they had during Meeting that didn’t quite make it into ministry; we call this “afterwords”. We then share news of friends and notices.

There is always coffee and conversation afterwards. Before you leave you are welcome to pick up some of our leaflets or a little booklet called “Advices and Queries”. During these Covid times we have adapted our arrangements in order to keep everyone safe, but what hasn’t changed is the very special atmosphere of our Meeting for Worship.

Quaker Weddings


Never been to a Quaker wedding before? Read below to find out what to expect.


Just like a Quaker meeting on a Sunday, Quaker Weddings are also based on silence. It is a slightly modified version of a normal ‘Meeting for Worship’, so many elements will be familiar if you have ever been to a Quaker Meeting on a Sunday before.


One of the essential characteristics of a Quaker wedding is simplicity. The couple may wear what they choose. Nobody 'gives away the bride', and wedding rings have no formal part in the ceremony, although rings may be exchanged after the declaration if the couple would like to.


What happens?

The room will have chairs set out in a circle. Some couples like to reserve particular seats for their families, but you can usually sit where you like. The meeting begins when the first person takes their seat. This means you will be sitting in silence and shortly after everyone is seated, an appointed person will stand and give a brief explanation of what is to follow. There is then a period of silence until the couple decide to make their official declarations to each other. Once the declarations have been made, the couple then sign the marriage certificate, along with two witnesses. The Registering Officer now reads the declaration aloud.

There is then a further period of silence, in which anyone present may stand and speak if they feel they would like to. Many people may want to speak, so it is best to be brief! Quakers have an expression that ‘ministry’ (i.e. speaking in a Quaker meeting) needs to be ‘wrapped in silence’, so please leave a gap for reflection after somebody has spoken before speaking.

This is a time of shared worship in which all may ask for God's blessing on the marriage and offer their prayers, thoughts and support for the couple. It is quite common for people who have never been to a Quaker meeting before to want to contribute. Many people prefer to avoid conventional religious language, and to express their love and support for the couple in whatever words they find most natural.

How long is a Quaker wedding?

The marriage usually lasts approximately 45 minutes. The end is indicated when an appointed person (known as an ‘elder’) shakes hands with the person next to them. Everyone else shakes hands with their neighbours. The couple, the Registering Officer and the witnesses leave to complete the register. While this is being done, everyone who heard the declarations is invited to sign the marriage certificate, so making a permanent record of everyone who was present. Children are also encouraged to sign too if they would like to!


Please note that photography and recording are not permitted during the ceremony, although arrangements may be made to take photographs in the meeting room before or afterwards.